Thursday, September 13, 2018

I am a Mommy too!

I recently had an encounter with a young mother where in we were talking about raising kids and she was pretty harassed having two very young children who were acting up pretty good...She stood there looking lost and in need and sure enough she asked me if I could give her some advice on ways to help her get them under control... she told me that she had tried everything and she was at her wits end...for about a half hour or so she launched into all the things that were wrong with her kids and how big a pain in the butt they were...when she was done I suggested that she read some materials on positive parenting and do some investigating to find some positive behavioral modification applications that would work for her...I also let her know to not expect changes over night that it could take up to a couple of months before she saw any changes at all and even longer for a complete change from what she called hooligan to well behaved child...I let her know that you will still have differences of opinions and may even have an argument or two but you have to remember that is just them becoming independent, Self - thinking,  responsible adults and all you have to do is teach them how to argue in a good she went off and read what i suggested and as soon as the literature said that she would have to change her attitude and respond to the kids in a whole new fashion to see a change she decided that I did not know what I was talking about because I did not have any kids!...That is when I get a little upset and pull out the photo album to show her I have 6 youngin's 18 grand babies and 6 great grand babies...not to mention the uncountable number of children that I have cared for and had a hand in raising from the time that I was 12 till the current ones that I have a hand in raising Now....
So Please before you assume that I have no children check to see if what you are saying is the truth and remember that just because I am old it does not mean that I lost a title along the way. I have only had a couple added. The most important thing for you to remember when you think that I know nothing about raising kids is that I am a Mother too!

Monday, February 12, 2018

Where do they go?

This question has been weighing heavy on my mind for about a year now...
I am talking about all the people you know who are friends and family who disappear once you cannot give them everything they want and need from you.
 I have always had friends and family gathered around and hardly ever went a day without a phone call or visit from someone but then I fell upon hard times, got sick, and could not put as much into everyone else's problems as I had to concentrate on my own at the time. I noticed as the days and weeks went by that fewer and fewer of my friends and family came by or called. I have found myself in my time of need alone and lonely. Now mind you I am not one to do for someone just to get something in return as I completely enjoy helping others out and I would not change a single thing that I have done for them. I am very glad I could be there to help them out in their time of need. I do however wonder sometimes why they cannot find it in there hearts and schedules to just call and say hello. I guess they just don't realize how far a simple hello can go for someone who is sick and cannot be anywhere near as active as they used to be. I am thinking that they just don't realize how important they are to the person who is sick and how much that person wishes that they could see or hear from them on a regular basis just like they did before the illness set in. The only thing left to a person who is sick to that level is the friendship and love of those around them. The ability to have someone to care and keep them company while they wait to die.

Monday, July 24, 2017

Ma's Zucchini Bread

This is one of my favorite summertime
baked goods. I have many hours of hilariously funny
memories of making a mess with my mother as we
mixed, baked and packaged all the breads to eat
through the holidays. So I decided that I would
share this recipe with y'all and maybe you can 
make your own memories to make you smile 
years and years later.

Saturday, March 25, 2017

A year has come and gone since I stopped by here the last time (Hope y'all didn't miss me too much).
In that year I have had many occasions to smile and many to get me really thinking about what is most important in life, at least for me...

         The year started off really good then I got sick went in to the doctors for a routine blood test and found out that it was not so routine after all...needless to say it totally changed my whole perspective on life and although the same things that were always important to me still are I have found that there is now a more intense appreciation for and need to keep in touch and spend as much time as possible with those whom I love...I have faced the fact of my own mortality and that life does not "just go on". There have been times when I wanted to scream and cry and times when I think about how much wasted time there is in life when people fight over stupid things  and can't put aside their differences to get along. The other thing is that there are so many tears that are needlessly shed because people are so cruel to those who are a bit different then they are or may need a helping hand. If the world was just kind enough to reach out a helping hand to their neighbor without expecting something in return and without thinking about the cost to them or the time that it would take away from their recreational activities then every one would smile and no one would be lacking for caring hands, food or anything else they might find themselves in need of.  Those reaching out would feel the moving love within themselves; that good feeling that comes from giving unconditionally.
       Instead this world we live in would rather fight over and hate things as trivial as a difference of opinion, what religion some one practices, the color of a persons skin and whether or not we should protect our world and leave it better for our children. This is such a shame because life is really short to begin with and when you are faced with something which will definitely shorten that time you really come to terms and realize as you watch the world and all their petty grievances that there are many more things that you have to be thankful for they will never figure out until that final moment when they are going to die and then it is way to late to do anything about it or appreciate them.    And that my friends is the kicker to finding out that you have that life shortening disease or as my Mom would call it "The silver lining" to all that has happened in this past year. I got a fore warning so that I am able to realize that choosing your battles is very important because the fight you are fighting now is the only important battle in your life and that all of these little blessings are not so small.
  All this brings to mind one of my favorite songs and how I really didn't understand it until now the song is called "Live like you were dying" and simply it means to open your eyes and heart and soul then you will find a whole new world in front of you and you will definitely appreciate it all which in my opinion is what we should all take the time to do now so when that day comes you will have no regrets. You will have said all you need to say, loved all those you needed to love and appreciated every step along the way.

Friday, December 18, 2015

This is a Recipe for a Basic Pancake mix which I use all the time... They are fluffy and thick so you don't need many to fill you up... If you happen to run out of bread they make a great PB&J or make the batter slightly thinner to make a great flavorful wrap for your favorite meat or scrambled eggs and cheese... Top them with fruit or your favorite syrup No matter what you do with them you will enjoy them... Yummy... :)

Basic Pancake Batter

1/2 Cup Milk
1 Egg
2 Tbls Melted Butter or Margarine
1 Cup Flour
2 Tsps Baking Powder
2 Tbls Sugar
1 Tsp Cinnamon
1 Tsp Vanilla Extract
1  Pinch of ground Allspice

Put egg, milk, melted butter, and vanilla into a bowl and mix well then set aside...
Mix all dry ingredients in large mixing bowl and whisk or sift together add egg mixture and whisk till all lumps are gone...spoon onto hot greased skillet and cook till bubbly all over and lightly browned on the bottom then flip and cook till lightly brown on second side...

If desired you can add any fruit to the batter in quantity that you desire or add it on top at the table....

For Waffles: double all ingredients EXCEPT ALLSPICE then  add an extra 1/2 cup of milk and 1 Tbl of melted butter.

For Chocolate Peanut Butter: Double all ingredients  LEAVING OUT ALLSPICE then add 1/2 Cup Cocoa, 1/4 Tsp salt, and 1/2 bag of Reese's Peanut Butter Chips.

Peanut Butter Topping: Mix 2Tbls Peanut Butter with 1 Tbl water and microwave until melted stirring every 10 seconds for up to 30 seconds if it is still too thick add water and repeat heating in 10 second intervals until you have the desired consistency...

Top with desired topping and enjoy...

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Hello world I am here today to write down my feelings of sadness and you know I lost My mom and best friend earlier this year and my Dad in the spring of last year and now it is the holiday season...Last year was a sad season but Mom the wonderful woman that she was brightened it for me but this year is devastating with them both gone. I cannot seem to find the Christmas spirit anywhere...I try very hard for the kids' sake to keep a smile on my face but once they all go home I am left lost and alone with all of my feelings of sadness making me want to go to bed and cover my head until after the New Year arrives. I could never explain what I am feeling but those of you who have lost a parent or two know it is an overriding sadness that weighs heavy on your heart....

So as I always do I wrote down my feelings in my words of poetry...

The World Is Empty Without You Here...

As Christmas descends around the world...
And loved ones all gather...
Into sadness I am hurled...
Skipping this season I would rather.

The children come and decorations are hung...
Smiles and laughter ring out...
Christmas carols are cheerily sung...
But leave me alone I would rather shout.

The tree goes up and the lights are lit...
The presents are all wrapped...
On my couch I solemnly sit...
Feeling totally trapped.
The Christmas singing and the bells chime...
Aren't the same without your voice so clear...
All I can do is cry all the time..
The world is empty without you here.

Written December 15, 2015
Christmas without mom & dad
Joy & Cashmier Kotlarz 
by: Frances (Kotlarz) Glennon 

Ó Frances Glennon 2015

Sunday, April 12, 2015

Poem for Momma

I wrote this Poem to say goodbye to my Mom...When she left this world to join my Dad in heaven I not only lost a Mom but my best friend and as you can see from the words in the poem it made me very upset and lost...I wanted to say goodbye and let her know how much I love her and will miss her...Written with all the love in my heart for you Momma by your baby girl Sissy...

My Momma My Best Friend

A Poem For Momma
 Momma, You kissed my boo boos you dried my tears...You helped me grow through the years.You taught me all I would need to know...The seeds of love for to sow.Now you've gone from this world...Into despair my life is hurled.But you reached out to touch my face...and shine upon me with loving grace.So now I sit and I can have not gone you're here with me.I love you momma is all I can say...I will carry you in my heart every day.